3 Simple Tips
3 Simple Tips To Start The Change That You Can Even Do On The Toilet
- Forgive yourself
For past mistakes, past relationships, things you said, things you did not say, things you regret not doing, things you regret doing, decisions you made……….. just forgive YOU…….
This is fundamental in order to start the change you want. We hold in our bodies stuff we keep from the past, so if you find yourself crying for no reason it is because your body is letting go of shit you no longer need – embrace it and go with it.
When I messed up – I ate, drank or shopped. I did what I could to take away the pain, guilt, shame, anger and sadness. I kept all those feelings there as a punishment and a reminder that I was a big fat f**k up, I was addicted to suffering. No more though – I now love myself enough to forgive myself.
If you manage to forgive yourself then you get rid of the power of the negativity, instead, the self compassion and self loving comes more naturally and to the forefront of your being.
How do I forgive myself you ask? – totally get it, I thought the same. Yeah, we can just sit and say – ‘I forgive myself’ but you have to FEEL it.
Do you feel frustrated, bitter, angry or disappointed with your life?
It is a huge, big whopping sign you are not in alignment and being true to who you are. However, do you really know who you are? If you don’t then how can you possibly go for what you desire? You may go for what you THINK or SHOULD go for but once you get there, will you feel satisfied and happy? Probably not but go on – you know you are going to try it anyway!!! 😉
The best way to go with your alignment is to listen to your body – there is a lot said for your ‘gut instinct’. Your mind can not solve your life…….!
The way we speak to ourselves has a huge impact on our bodies, spirit and beings. I am though focusing on the labels and identities we give ourselves unconsciously everytime we feel something. For example – in moments when you are angry – if you keep saying to yourself ‘I am angry’ then your spirit and ego will take that on. You will then identify yourself to be an angry person when actually just in that moment you FELT angry. Just simply switching ‘I am……’ to I feel…’ when you feel something will make a difference. If you keep saying ‘I am fat’ then the pounds or kilos will stay on as you are making it part of your identity and who you are. We as humans, love labels and identities – it makes us feel safe as we know then who to surround ourselves or live our lives by (I know that is a very sweeping generalisation because there are those people who strive to live outside of the labels). Also, feelings are temporary and you know the feelings you are experiencing in that moment will either disappear or dissipate but the labels and identities stick with us.
Like this? Want to know more or how to actually implement these tips and keep them in your everyday life? I have put together a 5 email sequence titled ‘How to Stop Fucking up your life and be more successful’.
In the sequence, there is a mixture of psychology, psychotherapy, coaching and questioning so you can implement the tools very easily in your life to get that success you want.